Maybe I'm way out of line here, but my close friend's wedding is coming up in a couple months and I expect my boyfriend to attend the wedding with me. He refuses. Am I really out of line for wanting him to come? Question here...
This one is for my lady friends who are married. So that means pretty much all of you.
1. When you have a social function, such as a close friend's wedding, high school reunion, mission reunion, etc... Do you expect your husband to attend with you?
2. Does your husband willingly attend or does he act like a mopey poop the whole time?
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I think that is part of what defines a significant other - they go to social functions with you. So yes, I think he should go. Clark generally doesn't act like a mopey poop when he goes to these things with me. Unless there is dancing. Then he's the mopiest.
Uh, yeah, he goes, unless it just doesn't make sense. For instance, a friend is getting married in a couple of months (same friend?) and we'll be living out of the wedding state by then and it might be easier to fly in by myself and go to the wedding than to bring the whole family down and find lodging and babysitting. But you guys don't have those issues yet, so, yes, he should go. And he should smile and be sociable and not hold it over your head or make it unenjoyable for you. Because what's the fun in having a boyfriend if you have to go to weddings and such all by your lonesome?
Yah, I actually have to fly to another state for the wedding. But it just so happens that the wedding festivities are taking place about 15 minutes from my bf's house.
If I mention free wedding food, Kevin is all about going. Does that work for your boyfriend? Good luck.
Hey Heather! Um, I expect him to go if I really want him there. Yes. But if it doesn't really matter to me, then I don't care if it matters to him. You should probably just really tell him how important it is to you and why. Ah, relationships, the best of times and the worst of times! Good luck! Oh, and yes, either way they gripe.
Isn't that the point of having a boyfriend/husband? so you don't have to suffer through these things alone?
Sometimes in relationships it is best to show love by sucking it up and going along without complaint. it is hard to do, though.
Funny that Blair commented. I would definitely say he'd be a complainer about going. I'd 100% expect him to go, and he probably would, even if only to avoid a larger fight. I have a hard time getting him to not complain about going to events of people he doesn't know, but it's pretty easy to convince if he knows the person. We're even going to a wedding the night of the democratic convention! But it's a really good mutual friend's wedding, thank goodness. And thank goodness for DVR.
Anyway, significant others need to support just as they would want to be supported.
Heather - my significant other is a really good sport sometimes and mopes others, but something we do that is helpful is we decide on a number between 1 and 10 and decide how important it is to each of us to go/not go and then we tell the other person what our number is (and we have to be honest) and the person with the higher number gets to do what they want - that way if it's more important to me to go somewhere than it's important to him not to go then we go, does that make sense? Maybe you should just call me so I can explain that one :-). Anyway, I just remind him over and over again how lucky he is to have me and that he definitely owes me.
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